Speaking of connection & love...?

I recently overheard two women in a coffee shop talking about another woman who was 40 years old and evidently had never had sex. First, not nice to talk about other people's personal business without their knowledge or consent; second, the tone of the conversation was lacking in any sense of "knowing" regarding the other woman's life, or compassion for the woman; third, they were laughing in disbelief, and appeared to be making fun of the fact that she had never had sex and the fact that she apparently was now in a romantic relationship and was talking about wanting children, which the two women I overheard obviously thought was a ridiculous idea at her age. What an incredible degree of disconnect would be required to have a conversation of this nature about anyone! What made it even more interesting, and unf0rtunate, was that the conversation was interrupted by a phone call taken by one of the women, where she spoke with someone who sounded like they might have been a child of hers...and the loving tone she used and claims of love for the person on the phone belied her lack of loving feelings for the woman they were gossiping about. More evidence of an emotional disconnect and a detachment from humanity! How do we do it! Do we realize how much we are negatively impacted in our own lives by doing it!